For years, women have been told that vaginal orgasm is the ultimate orgasm.
There’s so much gatekeeping involved in a woman sex’s life that some women are even ashamed to admit that they’ve never experienced an orgasm of the vaginal kind.
In fact, women’s sex life was always an afterthought. Things started to change in the previous century with the wave of feminist and women’s right movements.
Sigmund Freud on vaginal orgasm
The gatekeeping to vaginal orgasm can be traced back to the father of psychoanalysis, Sigmund Freud.
What’s Sigmund Freud got to do with the vagina, you ask? That’s exactly my problem, as well.
Well, Freud believed that women are inferior and secondary to men and he based this belief on a women’s sexuality.
Therefore, according to him, penetrative sex led to the only acceptable orgasm a woman can experience i.e., vaginal orgasm.
He also believed that a clitoris was a male organ as it structurally resembles a penis. Hence, attaining orgasms by stimulating the clitoris made the women “less feminine.”
Like most of Freud’s theories and beliefs, this, too, has proven to be false. His belief of a woman’s sexuality stemmed from a patriarchal and heterosexual point-of-view.
It managed to create awareness and spread sex education about female orgasm.
Recently, a paper published in the journal Clinical Anatomy claimed that the correct term to address any orgasms that a women experience is, “female orgasm.”
Therefore, terms like a vaginal orgasm, clitoral orgasm and G-spot have become obsolete.
The descriptions of female sexual organs are incorrect. For instance, as a clitoris is an external organ, an “internal clitoris” cannot exist.
The study even suggested that women who experience orgasm via penetration (vagina) are aroused by surrounding erectile orgasms (for example, stimulating a clitoris).
So, it is safe to say that it is rare for a woman to experience “vaginal orgasm”.
If you’re one of those women who have never experienced a “vaginal orgasm,” congratulations, you’re in the majority. Researchers are even debating the authenticity of vaginal orgasm.
Orgasms as orgasms at the end of the day. If you’re experiencing pleasure, it doesn’t matter how you attain it. Means justify the ends, eh?